Happy September! It is still in the triple digits here, but the light is changing. We have the most beautiful windows in our house, and fondly refer to the fall and winter as “sunset season.” The colors during this time of year are so electric and I love intentionally watching the sun go down — I’m often in bed too early to catch it during the summer (don’t judge me).
I’ve been reflecting a lot on this summer. It was a good one! I felt refreshed and excited for fall in a way that I haven’t always experienced, so naturally, I’ve been reflecting on what made me feel that way. The thing that keeps coming to me is that I focused on community. I was intentional about curating time and experiences with people I care about. Some of the ways were big — I hosted a charm bar party! — but most of them were small. I watched one of my best friends’ kids for a few days and had the best time playing Lego and spending time with him. I met friends for coffee and had them over to hang out in the pool. I pushed past my social anxiety and did some healing around how I show up in relationships. I made a new soulmate friend, which was such a delight and a reminder that even as adults, we can still meet people who will become an essential part of our lives, an experience we often attribute to our younger years.
As someone who clings pretty hard to my introvert tendencies, this summer was a reminder that while I will likely always need a ton of time alone and I don’t think you’ll ever catch me working the room at a huge party, social connection fills me up. And as we head into the cooler months, it’s a reminder not to isolate, but to find ways to invite community in, even when hibernation is appealing.
• I love Joy’s tips for getting our kitchens ready for fall. Cinnamon season? Yes please. (Joy The Baker)
• Any other Downton Abbey fans here? I am so excited about the final movie (and a little sad about the official end of the franchise). The sets look amazing! I already have my tickets for opening weekend. (Architectural Digest)
• Are you making money awkward with your friends? I loved this article. Admittedly, I used to be a bit of a miser about splitting the bill. Now, I fear that at times I might be making it weird by being too generous? I never want anyone to feel bad and this was full of good reminders to be mindful of how money affects your relationships. (The Cut)
• I recently became a member of the Rancho Gordo Bean Club (after two years on the waitlist!!!) and I’m already dreaming about a rainy day and this black bean soup. (Rancho Gordo, VegGirlRD, Joy The Baker)
• From my Substack: the things I thought I’d be wearing as a vice principal and what I’m actually wearing every day. I’m also considering this raincoat for the chilly weather that’s soon to come. (Substack, Varley)
• Have you watched the Unknown Number documentary on Netflix? Woof. I loved/hated it.
• Looking a little sweaty in the middle of the day? Here are tips on how to refresh your makeup, according to the pros. (Vogue)
• As a person who thrives on gold stars, I have been doing this “dopamine anchoring” thing for years, but a little treat after doing something unpleasant never hurts! (Bustle)
• 25 Dishes to Make for Someone Going Through a Hard Time. There’s nothing better than giving someone a meal when things are hard. I love this. (NYT Gift Link)
• Questions to ask yourself this fall. If you’re not reading Kelton Wright’s beautiful Substack, Shangrilogs, may I gently suggest that you start? You have such a treat ahead of you. I loved this post about asking questions to make for a better winter and spring. I also loved her piece about the ecology of belonging — finding and building home. (Substack)
• I’m not fully bought in on the longevity trend, but I did enjoy this read about how to live longer. (The Good Trade)
• Apple pie for your soul. There’s nothing better, and fall is time for apple everything. (Joy The Baker)
• Heaven may exist, and it might be this camp where you get to read all day. (NYT Gift Link)
• How micro-organizing can help you tidy up! (The Washington Post)
• Long live the game night! I used to say I wasn’t a games person but after hosting and attending a few game nights, I’m changing my tune. (Vogue)
